Even though our partners are the ones with ADD, we are certainly allowed to have "ADD moments".
Everyone has times when they feel overwhelmed and disorganized; when no matter how hard you try, you just can't get it together. Have you ever had one of those days where you sleep through your alarm, make a big mistake at work, and come home to discover you forgot to defrost the chicken for dinner? Unfortunately for our ADD partners, those kind of days are the norm, but we all experience them from time to time.
You may feel like your role in your relationship is to "hold it all together". It's your job to make sure the bills get paid on time, that everyone eats three meals a day, and the house stays reasonably clean. It's hard for your ADDer to handle that kind of "life admin" work, as I like to call it. So you take it on, because it doesn't faze you.
But my advice for today's What About Me? Wednesday is to forgive yourself for those "ADD moments". If you forget to pay the cable bill one month, is it really that bad? If your dinner plans flop, will anyone be that unhappy with pizza? It's important to cut yourself a little slack. You're entitled to your "ADD moments". You could even try to enjoy them.
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