Pop Psychology Friday

We had some fun earlier this week with the alternative Myers-Briggs personality types. Jen made a blind item out of it on her blog and people tried to guess what type she was (for the record, she's a Cult Leader, and a good one at that).

I studied a great deal about cults in college, but the only thing I remember about them is that I'd make a great candidate for recruitment. Maybe that's why I was drawn to Jen. Hmm.

According to the real Myers-Briggs personality test (which is based on the theories of our buddy Carl Jung, so take them with a grain of salt) Jen is a "teacher" (enthusiastic, imaginative, helpful) and I am an "inspector" (serious, practical, orderly).

I wanted to see how compatible we were according to these descriptions. What I found was this, from personalitytype.com:  

How to Love an ISTJ (an Erin):

• Appreciate my common sense, practical, and steady approach to life.    
• Respect my need for routine and order; avoid sudden changes.
• Listen attentively and respectfully.
• Try to be calm, honest and specific when discussing problems.
• Give me plenty of time to think things through before discussing them. 
• Above all - Notice and acknowledge my hard work and commitment to our family's needs.

How to Love an ENFJ (a Jen):

• Encourage me to express my feelings and opinions.
• Share your own reactions and emotions with me.
• Tell me how much you love me and appreciate all the ways I enrich your life.
• Make the effort to really get to know and understand my philosophical nature.
• Try to keep our home orderly.
• Above all - support my feelings and work to restore harmony between us quickly.

Now, there are 16 personality types and 136 different type combinations, but if these two sets of guidelines don't apply to all ADD relationships, I'll eat Carl Jung's hat. Post them on the fridge!

 

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Comments

[John M]

I think I got another set of guidelines that apply to most ADD relationships.
I am an ISTJ, my ADD wife is an INFP. According to "How to love an INFP" I am to:

Appreciate my uniqueness and sensitivity.

Be a patient and supportive listener.

Try not to force decisions too quickly, or bug me about being messy.

Respect my privacy and my need for emotional intimacy.

Be reassuring and gentle in your words and actions.

Above all - respect my feelings and never demand that I compromise my values.

PS - you are #3 on google for Carl Jung's Hat.